Thursday, August 28, 2008

THE WEDDING!

Last Saturday I had the pleasure and the honor to see my granddaughter Victoria marry her prince charming Wesley. It was a fantasy come to life and what better place for this magic to happen than the Magic Kingdom Disneyland. The bride arrived at the ceremony in a Cinderella carriage resplendent with coachman and footman. Victoria's best friend and confidant Jennifer Jeffries was her maid of honor. Her beautiful bridesmaids were Leslie Trujillo and Adrienne Parker. Her mother Jeanine Santos gave her away to be betrothed to Wesley (Victoria's father was a victim to homicide a month before her wedding). Victoria and Wesley have a daughter Julia (4) who was the flower girl and a son Jonathan who was the ring bearer. Dreams really do come true so never stop dreaming. Please enjoy these photos that I took with my digital Canon camera (this is a great camera; it does all the work; all I did was aim and snap).









A message from the bride and groom "We would first like to thank God because without him our love could not be. He has blessed us with two beautiful children who we adore and we could not be more thankful for that. We would also like to thank our friends and family from the bottom of our hearts for sharing your lives with us and for coming to celebrate our special day".

To those who bless us today from above, we hold dearly in our hearts and in loving memory.

Charles Harris Jackson, Jr. after the ceremony the bride and groom flew to Florida to take a cruise ship to the Bahamas and they lived happily ever after.

Monday, August 25, 2008

Stockholm Syndrome

First off. I want to apologize for taking so long to write my article. Since my vacation article it seems almost as if I went on another vacation... I wish!
So, on with the show!

After my 46 year old son left my home on a Friday morning 2:30 a.m. under the influence of alcohol, I knew this article needed to address this topic. Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia is my source of clinical information.

Wikipedia: The term Stockholm Syndrome was coined by the criminologist and psychiatrist Nils Bejerot, who assisted the police during a robbery and referred to the syndrome in a news broadcast. The syndrome is named after the Normalstorg robbery of KreditBanken at Norrmalstorg, Stockholm, Sweden in which the bank robbers held employees hostage from August 23 to August 28, 1973. In this case, the victims became emotionally attached to their oppressors and even defended them after they were freed from the six-day ordeal.

Stockholm Syndrome: Loyalty to a more powerful abuser - in spite of the danger that this loyalty puts the victim in danger. It is common amongst victims of domestic abuse, battered partners and child abuse (dependent children). In many instances the victims choose to remain loyal to their abuser and choose not to leave him or her even when they are offered a safe placement in foster homes or safe houses. This mental phenomenon is also known as Trauma - Bonding or Bonding - to- the - Perpetrator. This syndrome was described by psychoanalysts of the object relations theory school as the phenomenon of psychological identification with the more powerful abuser. A variant of Stockholm Syndrome includes cases of abusive parents and abusive siblings in which the victim even after entering adulthood still justifies the family abuse. According to the psychoanalytic view of the syndrome the tendency might well be the result of employing the strategy evolved by newborn babies to form an emotional attachment to the nearest powerful adult in order to maximize the probability that this adult will enable - at the very least - the survival of the child, if not also prove to be a good parental figure. This syndrome is considered a prime example for the defense mechanism of identification it should be taken into account that according to Namnyak ea. (2008) the Stockholm Syndrome is not a recognized medical heading CMe SHJ. My middle son has Stockholm Syndrome and also my oldest daughter. My son has a severe case; my daughter's comes and goes. My son has taken on the role as the oppressor. My son is 46 years old but psychologically and emotionally he's ten years old. At ten years of age his father and my ex-husband would victimize me in front of my children. My son began at 13 to victimize his two younger sisters. My son saw his dad, my ex-husband use alcohol as an excuse to victimize me so to this day my son uses alcohol in the same way. I was not able to get help for my children because after the divorce my children chose to live with their dad and his new wife. I hot help for myself. Psychotherapy takes a lot of time and it is 100% effective. So, if anyone out there is having problems with family members suffering from Stockholm Syndrome get help for them if it is possible but by all means get help for yourself.

God Bless - Until next time.

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Vacation, Vacation, Vacation ! ! !

It's that time of year. We are all looking to go someplace and have some fun. At least a week and the lucky ones a month. We all need to get away once-in-while. All of us. Last year I took my advice and enjoyed 9 days away from work, stress, bills and Drama! I went to Switzerland. Here are some beautiful shots of a great vacation at a great location. The two toilets are not two toilets. One is a bidet. A bidet is for cleaning your genitalia after you finish on the toilet. Smart idea. Please enjoy the scenery and please do comment on what you've seen or what you want us to talk about. God Bless you all... until next time.



Friday, August 8, 2008

Ralph


Mrs. Wuthrich's Words of Wisdom would not be in business if it were not for a wonderful, respectful, honest and humble individual Ralph Bellamy,Jr. Ralph is my "blog" business partner. Ralph does all the work! I may write the words of wisdom column but Ralph puts the written word onto the computer and then the internet. Two months ago I asked Ralph if he knew what a blog was and he got excited and he asked me what I knew about it. I told him Nightline had done a segment on their show about blogging and they had interviewed a couple who were doing quite well financially blogging, so much so, the husband had quit his day job to help his wife with her blog and that's all I knew about blogs and blogging. That's when Ralph came up with this brain storm of Mrs. Wuthrich's Words of Wisdom. Ralph set everything all up. He got us a free blog; he got affiliates-companies to advertise on our blog. Ralph does all the typing that goes into the column. He works all hours advertising our affiliates. It is because of Ralph that our blog has made a little money; without him there would be no blog. Ralph comes from a wonderful family that lives in Wisconsin. He has a brother who is a rapper and a beautiful sister. His parents have been married for forty-seven years to each other. Ralph speaks, reads & writes German a great deal. He also speaks a little French and Spanish. Ralph loves reading, travel and the opera. Ralph is a great teacher. I have learned more about computers and the internet in two months that would have taken me five semesters at Jr. College. Ralph has shown me a whole other side to the internet. A good side.
To have Ralph for a friend is to have a friend for life. Ralph is the most respectful person on the planet. He is a real dinosaur. He opens doors for ladies and he never talks over anyone. He will wait until a person finishes speaking to make his comment. He is a real gentleman.
Ralph's ultimate goal is to become a movie producer. Ralph is a true workaholic. Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Bellamy for having such a fine specimen of a human being.. My friend Ralph.

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Be Thankful

Often times we get so caught up in everyday life that we forget to be thankful for all we have been blessed with. When we get up in the morning and comb our hair as we get ready for work- we forget to be thankful we have hair. My beautiful friend Madelyn has lost most of her gourgeous mane due to the medication she takes for Lupus. Madelyn had a mane of hair like singer Chaka Khan. Now my friend has to wear a hair piece. Madelyn who is in pain a lot never complains and she is always very thankful for everything. We should be thankful for the sunshine. We should be thankful for the rain. We should be thankful we have eyesight, hearing and sense of smell. We should be thankful we can walk, run, hop, dance, sing and laugh. We should be thankful for our children, our brothers, our sisters, uncles, aunts, cousins and friends. We should be thankful for our job, our home, our car, our bank account (no matter how small). We should be thankful for living in a free country. We should be thankful we can read and write and do math. We should be thankful when we get up in the morning and when we go to bed at night. We should be so thankful for our health, our strength and wits about us.
We all have so much to be thankful for. All of us.
We thank Our Lord for all your wonderful Blessings. AMEN!

Saturday, August 2, 2008

Medical Trials

Several years ago in my speech class I was part of a debate team. We were told to debate a controversial topic. Our team chose experimental drug testing on animals. We opposed it. One of the objectives in the debate was alternative solutions. The most reasonable solution seemed to be to use people in these experiments instead of animals. About a year later a friend asked me if I would be interested in making $1000 testing a drug for allergies. She told me I would get a free physical and that the drug testing procedure only lasted for about an hour. During that hour, I would have my blood taken, blood pressure and temperature taken. The entire test would take eight weeks. During that eight week period I would be required to spend one twelve hour period at the clinic, which would include free breakfast, lunch and dinner. The drug being tested was Claritin. The whole experience was an eye opener. I used the $1000 to send for my daughter-in-law, my son and grandson to come and visit from Texas. Seven months ago another friend told me about a study being conducted to test a bone density drug on post menopausal women. I signed up. This study paid $2500. The first part of a study is called the screening. All vital medical information on the patient is collected. During my screening the nurse took my blood pressure and found it to be high. Very high. I was turned down for the study but the good news is I found out I had high blood pressure and I would not have known this. High blood pressure or hypertension is known as the silent killer. I came home and cut up some raw garlic and put it in a water bottle and every time I got thirsty I drank this garlic water. I also went to the 99 cents only (full fledged grocery store with meats & produce) store and I ate 2 apples a day and in less than two weeks my blood pressure had come from 173/85 to 100/69. Thanks to the medical trial screening I found out about the hypertension. There were no symptoms that anything out of the ordinary was wrong with me. July 21, 2008 I began a new study. This study is testing a pain medication. In order to be a candidate for this study, a person had to have a bunion removed. Well, I have a bunion on each foot - large bunions. I passed the screening and I had surgery to remove the bunion on my left foot. All went well. The only thing was I never had any pain after the surgery to test the pain medication. The surgery was on a Monday afternoon. On Tuesday afternoon, I was released from the hospital on a scale from zero to 10 the nurse wanted to know my pain level. My pain level was zero. This medical trial paid $1200. Since the study group was not able to try out the pain medication on me I was disqualified to continue. I still get paid for the screening and the operation which totals about $500 and the big plus is the bunion is gone and I qualify to have the other one removed. Medical trial studies may not be for everyone. They do however do a lot of good and they save animals from being tested. This should make all you animal activist real happy.
In these times when lay-offs are frequent in all job markets and free health physicals are unheard of medical trial testing may be an answer to some of our money woes and what physically ails us. Something to think about until next time...
God Bless.